Frenemies by Hayley DiMarco

Frenemies by Hayley DiMarco

Author:Hayley DiMarco
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Published: 2010-04-01T04:00:00+00:00


As hard as it might be, you have to dig deep and find compassion for your friend who is being pulled away from God and his law and toward the sin that entangles her. When you see someone in spiritual pain like your frenemy is, your job is first to try to help guide her back to or toward God with compassion and love. If you’ve tried all that and she has refused your assistance, it is no longer on you; it’s on her for rejecting help.

HUMILITY

Next comes humility. I think that humility is the foundation of all faith. It was in humility that you first went to God and confessed your sin. It is in humility that you continue to trust him as Father God. Humility is the undercurrent of all obedience, and when you refuse to be humble, you risk crashing your faith.

Humility is the best practice in relationships as well. When people start to feel prideful and arrogant, they run the risk of a big fall (see Proverbs 18:12). Pride is not a good component of a good friendship. Humility is what pulls the relationship into the light of God’s Word and Spirit.

If humility when it comes to your frenemy is a hard concept for you, then think about how many times you, as a friend and child of God, have acted like God’s enemy and so turned into a frenemy yourself. No one is perfect, not even one (see Romans 3:10), and if you are honest, you can see that at times you’ve messed up too. As you start to recognize your own weakness and sin, it becomes easier to be humble when you see the same in others.

Entire books have been written on the topic of humility, so I encourage you to do your homework. My favorite is Humility by Andrew Murray—you might want to check it out. Read about, study, and talk to people about humility. Figure out how to make it a part of your life. And remember, it was a crucial part of Jesus’s life, and if it’s a part of Jesus, then why wouldn’t you want it to be a part of you as well? “He humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, death on a cross” (Philippians 2:8).

Practically speaking, humility with your frenemy means that you don’t always jump to defend yourself, but you first consider where she is coming from. It means that you don’t consider yourself better than her. It means that you trust God to fight for you, so you don’t think of ways to get revenge. It means that when she’s rude, unkind, or downright mean, you aren’t hurt or offended by her because you know how unworthy you are of all the blessings God has given you, and what she says only confirms it. When you are truly humble, no one can hurt you with their words, because you base your worth only on the One who saves you and not on another person’s opinion of you.



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