Rooted in Purpose by Tricia Acheatel

Author:Tricia Acheatel
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: brene brown, imposter syndrome, books for women, womens empowerment, life purpose, this is your life, calling, martha beck, i am enough, gifts, healing, confidence, self care, self esteem, law of attraction, the secret, love, purpose, feminist, self help, courage, vulnerability, meditation, journaling, inner child, perfectionism, braving the wilderness, gifts of imperfection, unstuck, self doubt, self love, pursue your dreams, women in business, find your voice
Publisher: Hokulea Press
Published: 2018-05-24T16:00:00+00:00

Tools and Exercises

Overwriting Negative Beliefs

IN Loving What Is, Byron Katie teaches us how to question the thoughts that are causing us suffering and driving our reactions. Katie calls it “The Work,” a process of inquiry that questions beliefs about ourselves, other people and about life. This simple process traces unhappiness back to the thought or belief that triggered it, questions that belief and then opts for a more supportive belief. The Work teaches us to identify and question the thoughts causing our suffering and consists of four questions and the turnarounds that clarify a more supportive viewpoint.

I have used this technique with many clients over the years and have observed that not only does The Work reduce stress, anger, anxiety and fear, it creates more inner peace and clarity which opens new levels of emotional and mental bandwidth, giving them the confidence to move forward on projects.

Since the 1960’s, psychologists have been saying that automatic negative thoughts sabotage us and create a vicious cycle of suffering mindsets. We get stuck in these old neural pathways. Like well-travelled roads, our brains tend towards these negative thoughts, again and again.

Before I began doing this work, I assumed when a negative thought popped into my head it was an accurate reflection of the way things were. However, by questioning these thoughts, I created another point of view and a new vantage point for my brain. There’s always another point of view available if we are ready to have an open mind.

Increasing evidence of the brain’s plasticity suggests we can disrupt this destructive cycle and activate new neural pathways that are healthier, more self-supportive, positive and productive. Our brains don’t stop developing in childhood and as adults we can learn to stop our mind from travelling down the well-trodden neural pathways by creating entirely new ones.

1) Identify a self-limiting belief. The first step is becoming aware of our automatic negative thoughts. Byron Katie suggests that we begin by noticing how we are judging ourselves and others. For women who overextend themselves, and end up feeling undervalued or unappreciated, disappointment and resentment can set in. Judgement of another may sound something like “He expects me to do everything!” Self-judgement is what stops women short from putting themselves and their work out in the world. I have observed the following as the most common self-limiting beliefs for women:

Am I doing this right? (I’m not doing this right)

Is this working? (This isn’t working)

Will I fail? (I am failing)

Where is this going? (This isn’t going anywhere)

Am I ready to do this? (I’m not ready to do this, i.e. not enough training)

Is this going to help anyone? (Nobody will want this)

Do I have enough energy to do this? (I’m too old to be trying to do this)

Have I done enough preparation for this? (I’m not smart enough)

Is this going to make a difference? (It will never be good enough)

Who will want this? (No one wants what I have to offer; people will think I’m stupid)

Will I ever be able

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